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I had some time to reflect on my life over this past week. I realized there were parts of it that just weren't supporting me as well as they could be. One of them was my relationship with my boyfriend. He's a wonderful man, and I've enjoyed all the time we've spent together. But I came to the realization that we are at two very different places in our lives.

He's at a point in his life where he's ready to settle down, live in one place the rest of his life, and retire in a few short years. Although he doesn't want to get married, or live with someone, he does want a partner who is available to him a great deal of the time.

I, on the other hand, have an active 13 year old, a vibrant and growing business, and a very full life. I'm years away from wanting to retire, if ever. I love what I do so much, I have my doubts I'll ever want to stop. And I have a lot of people in my life that I love spending time with… besides my daughter, there's my mother, my friends, and a pretty terrific ex-husband as well.

I want a partner who is ready to grow with me and explore everything life has to offer. I want a partner who has dreams, goals, and aspirations as big as mine, so we can share them together. And I want a partner who is ultimately interested in getting married, because that's important to me as a parent.

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I just got back from Adam Urbanski's seminar in Newport Beach, which was outstanding. But it's good to be back home, and this weekend, my daughter and I will be putting up our Christmas Tree. Our weather is cooperating with the Christmas season… it's freezing!

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Have you ever noticed how easy it is for some women to attract men into their lives, while others seem to sit around by themselves a lot?

For many years, I was one of those sitting around a lot. I just didn’t understand what some women seemed to know instinctively. Then gradually, with a lot of intention on creating something different in my love life, I learned some of those secrets that seemed to come so naturally to other women.

Here are three of the biggest secrets I learned on how to magically magnetize men…

Secret #1: Be deeply interested. I’ve had at least three clients tell me over the past few weeks that they didn’t know how to flirt, or start a conversation with a man. Here’s the great news, it’s as simple as asking a question.

For those of you who know me personally, it may come as a surprise that I grew up painfully shy. To the point where a good number of my classmates thought I was stuck-up, because I never said anything. It was actually just that I was terribly shy, and afraid of talking to people I didn’t know very well.

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How was your Thanksgiving? We had a very quiet, but lovely weekend. We spent Thanksgiving Day at my mother’s with just my mom, my daughter, and me. Three generations of women and four dogs… we had a lot of fun just relaxing and enjoying each other’s company.

I’m so excited to be going to Adam Urbanski’s Marketing Seminar in Newport Beach, California this week. I’m ready to take my business to the next level in 2009 and that is Adam’s specialty. I know it will be an exciting five days. I’m looking forward to both the education and the networking opportunities with some very successful entrepreneurs. All that, and beautiful Newport Beach too… it should be a great event.

Can you believe there are only 4 weeks left in 2008?

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With this season of Thanksgiving, I want each of you to know how deeply grateful I am for your continued  support and acknowledgment of my work. It moves me deeply to know that you take time out of your precious schedules each week to read my articles and Ezine.

I feel enormously blessed for your presence in my life and to show my appreciation, I wanted to share two of my most favorite videos and stories this week.

The video is one I've watched countless times and it never ceases to bring me to tears. It reminds me of how very much I have to be grateful for everyday. It's a short 5-minute video that I hope will remind you of the blessing you truly are to me, and to the world.

http://www.gratefulness.org/brotherdavid/a-good-day.htm

In my article this week, I'm sharing a story that also touched me deeply, and allowed me to view my life with all the struggles and challenges from a completely new perspective. Reading this story had a profound impact on me. It was this story that allowed me, in great part, to forgive, accept, and to finally feel gratitude for a very difficult time in my life. To read more about my story, please click here.

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This is what I know for sure about Love and the Law of Attraction… whatever I put my attention on with my beliefs, thoughts, and feelings, comes back to me multiplied, whether I like it or not.

So if there are experiences in my life where I haven't fully released the hurt, anger, or fear over what happened, I will continue to attract those types of experiences to me.

I have spent a huge part of my life learning how to forgive the people who hurt me.

For many years, I thought it was important to try and figure out why these things happened, and why it was necessary for me to go through these experiences.

Then I began to realize that the 'why' was not nearly as important as my desire to let the experiences go, and step out of being in the energy of a victim.

Years ago, I read the following parable from Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue; Book 3, by Neale Donald Walsh, and it helped me tremendously to change my perception about those who had hurt me.

It helped me to not only learn how to forgive, but to also feel peace and even gratitude for everything that  happened. Now, I feel blessed because the experiences I had brought me an even greater understanding of who I am and what I am here to do, which is to teach unconditional love and acceptance for ourselves, and ultimately for others as well.

My wish for you is that this story will help you find a way to heal your heart from the past, so you can fully receive all the love that's waiting for you in the future.

[God talking:] "You may choose to be any part of God you wish to be," I said to the Little Soul. "You are Absolute Divinity, experiencing Itself. What Aspect of Divinity do you now wish to experience as You?"

"You mean I have a choice?" asked the Little Soul. And I answered, "Yes. You may choose to experience any Aspect of Divinity in, as, and through you."

"Okay," said the Little Soul, "then I choose Forgiveness. I want to experience my Self as that Aspect of God called Complete Forgiveness."

Well, this created a little challenge, as you can imagine.

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Welcome to all our new subscribers! It's so wonderful to have you as part of our community.

There are times when life just feels like a celebration. For me, the holidays are one of those times, especially when I have family close by and a wonderful, romantic man who is my partner and the love of my life. There is much to be grateful for.

My daughter and I went Christmas shopping over the weekend. I bought three new pairs of gorgeous high heels that I can't wait to wear when my boyfriend, Paul, takes me out. Since he is 10" taller than I am, I can put on a pair of beautiful 4" heels and he's still taller. He just ordered a pair of fabulous red and black, custom made Argentine Tango shoes for me with 3¼" heels, so we'll be a little closer in height when we're dancing. It is so wonderful to have a partner who not only loves and adores me, but loves to dance with me all the time.

With the holidays just around the corner, where is your special someone?

I'd love to help you bring that special someone into your life. If you're ready to begin creating a rewarding and enriching relationship with someone new, I can help you attract him into your life. You can start making your relationship dreams come true.

The first step is up to you. I have 2 spots left for a f*r*e*e "Find Your Soul Mate" Coaching Session. You can register for it until November 23rd. If you're ready to take that first step, you can find the details to register below.

My article this week is on the nature of love and using the Law of Attraction to attract the man of your dreams. My wish for you is that you can use the information to manifest your ideal relationship in the New Year. Make 2009 your best year yet!

And if you'd like support in any way, please know I'm here to offer that to you as you begin your journey to love.

With love, light, and blessings for the coming week ahead,

Dawn Allen, CDC, CPTF
Love & Attraction Expert, Relationship Coach, and
Founder of Inspired Heart Coaching
"Helping you create the relationship of your dreams… "

Or, are there nagging doubts and fears that consistently crop up when you start to think about manifesting the relationship of your dreams?

I was working with a client the other day, and as we discussed some of the challenges that have held her back from having her ideal relationship, she finally just sighed and said, "I guess there's just a part of me that's doesn't really believe I can have my ideal relationship." Bingo, we hit pay dirt when she made that realization.

The Law of Attraction is a very powerful universal principal, but it is essentially neutral. It simply delivers to us what we believe to be true.

So if your belief is continually wavering about whether or not it's possible for you to create your heart's desire, then that is what the Universe will bring to you… more men to waver about.

If your belief is "I'm not sure I've got the skills to develop the long-term, committed relationship I desire, because I haven't been able to in the past," then that is what the Universe will deliver… more relationships to test those skills you're not sure you have.

But here is another wonderful truth… you can turn it all around.

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This week I’m going to share with you the three big lessons I learned to change my behavior so I could create the relationship of my dreams.

Here’s what I learned:

1.  I stopped trying so hard to make the relationship happen.  I really felt part of my job was to work hard at keeping the relationship going all the time, even if my partner wasn’t working at it at all.  The problem with that is that men like to feel they have some control over where they’re going with a woman in a relationship, and not that it’s all being directed by someone else.  By my working so hard at it all the time, I took that away from him. 

2.  I stopped giving all of me away.  I had a tendency in the past to tell a man everything about me, right from the start.  If there was a connection, I thought the more I shared, the better off we would be, because we would develop emotional intimacy that much sooner.  The problem with that was there was nothing left for him to discover after the first few dates.  I was the one doing all the talking.  Part of me wanted to show him how smart, funny, capable, and interesting I was, because then he would see how different I was from every other girl out there.  There was a need to prove myself and be ‘worthy’ of a relationship.

But in the beginning of a relationship, most men really don’t care very much about everything we’ve done in the past and all we’ve accomplished.  They want to focus on who we are with them right now, in this moment.  They want a woman who can be feminine, sensual, relaxed, and at ease with herself because this immediately puts them at ease when we’re together.  Being intelligent is great, because men like smart women, but not if it feels cold, superior or condescending.  Being smart has to include warmth and femininity for men to really feel their masculinity when they’re with a woman.  I took away all the mystery of letting him get to know me in his own way.  I was too busy doing all the chasing, being too nice, giving, and available, to give him any reason to continue pursuing me.  He stopped because I gave him nothing to pursue.  I gave it all away in the beginning.  Men like discovering things on their own.  Part of what keeps attraction going is anticipation for the unknown.  It’s part of what draws men to us.

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Welcome to all my new subscribers this week! Now that you've joined our community, I'm looking forward to our time together and the wonderful things that will happen in your love life and relationships. It is my wish to support you every step of the way on this path we're now traveling together, to help you find the love of your life, and have a deep and magical loving relationship.

There has been an overwhelming response to my "Find Your Soul Mate" F*r*e*e Session Offer, and I've been inundated with requests. I'm thrilled to be able to help as many of you as possible. I have 5 more spots available, and the offer runs through the end of next week, so please sign up as soon as possible if you're interested. Click here for all the details, and to register for your session.

This week is the second part of my article "Are You Working Too Hard to Have a Relationship?" In this article, I'll share with you the three big lessons I learned, and how I changed my behavior in relationships. I hope you enjoy it and learn from everything I did wrong in the past!

Finally, I did an interview recently with Jocelyne Teasdale to promote her new book, Beauty Enslaved. It was a wonderful interview, and I so enjoyed talking to her. If you'd like to listen to it, you can click here.

Until next time, I wish for you a week filled with love, light, and blessings,

Dawn Allen, CDC, CPTF
Love & Attraction Expert, Relationship Coach, Author and
founder of Inspired Heart Coaching(TM)
"Helping single women attract the love of their life… "